Around, Around We Go...
- A.
- Jun 6, 2020
- 2 min read
So how many times have you gotten the question, "Awe, so you aren't dating anyone?" Your friends around you are getting married, having kiddos (hello Quarantine Babies) and we are here... wading the waters of singleness.
Let me premise, being single is in NO WAY a bad thing, but what we are going to discuss today can be...the topic...DATING APPS. The dreaded Death Circle of loneliness.
Before I jump into the vlog, here is my own experience with dating apps, maybe it sounds familiar -
I get on the app, spend enough time swiping to match with two or three guys.
We spend a couple of days talking to each other.
End up meeting at a bar or restaurant.
Have what you think is a great conversation...repeat the same ol's "what do you do, what do you want to do, where do you see yourself in five years."
Let the drinks flow.
Kiss, maybe more.
Think things were great.
Then one of two things happen both with the same result.
Keep talking maybe day or two more.
OR Never hear from them again.
Sound remotely familiar? If so, keep reading. Both end results can leave you with this lonely, "what is wrong with me," feeling. So here we go, starting the death circle all over again.
So let's break it down a bit more. Know how when you play Candy Crush and you pass a level and get that every so slight release of serotonin, which makes you happy, so you keep playing to get that feeling again...well Dating apps have shown to have similar effects on the brain. With every swipe and match, you get a similar release of serotonin, leaving you wanting to do it again. So you spend X amount of time swiping aimlessly. Yet, when you finally meet someone the expectation versus reality are often missing a bit of mystery, anticipation, and risk.
In the video below. I speak to conversations I have had surrounding these dating apps - not only with my generation but our parents as well!
Are you interested in learning more about sex, faith, and healing the bridge between the two? I am creating a special space for women who are interested in diving deeper into this topic and willing to open up the conversation around it.
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Peace & Love,
- A
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